Preference for self-reliance in close relationships

Abstract

Wanting space from a partner may be a more common desire than previously thought within the literature on close relationships. The current study aims to better understand individual differences in the preference for space within close relationships (i.e., in self-reliance). Participants (N = 194 in 97 couples) reported their dyadic support processes in questionnaires and 183 participants filled out daily diaries over 35 days. A subgroup of participants preferred self-reliance to a partner’s active support attempts. Participants who preferred self-reliance to active support perceived less support from their partners and others, evaluated support as less beneficial when they received it, and sought less support than participants who did not report wanting space. This pattern held for both emotional and practical support in daily diaries. These results provide a new perspective on the interplay between self-regulation and support processes within close relationships in times of stress.